You’re Only Defeated If You Quit

Because of shiny objects, do you keep finding yourself over & again at starting point? I hear this all the time: “My gosh! How long is it going to take me to succeed? How hard must I work? How many hours are too many hours?? I can’t do this anymore, it does NOT work.”

And then, they want to give up. AGAIN

You’re Only Defeated If You Quit

Let’s be honest. Many young entrepreneurs are looking for a “get-rich-quick scheme” or  some type of “instant gratification.”  Eyes turned to heaven. a grin on their face, mouth open… tongue sticking out, drooling – they wait for the skies to open and serve the 5 course meal – Drop! Straight into their bellies… All cooked, mashed and digested!!! Tee-hee…!

Well… excuse me. It does NOT work that way… (-_-)

In recent weeks, I’ve had a few wishfully say they’d love to be where I am now. Yet, when I follow up on their progress I see they’re not doing what it takes to get there. You cannot WISH yourself into success.

It takes long hours, a lot of hard work and it’s a huge learning curve. I can remember putting aside many fun things because I put my success first. I didn’t have a hobby; I was serious and doing serious work, determined to see results. My “WHY” got me through it.

I remember a mentor telling me that at first, it would take 80% of my time for 20% of the growth. I can tell you that there was a lot of truth in that statement. I may not be where I want to be but I’m not where I used to be…! I’m on my way there!  Woohoo! :) The only way to get there is to put in the work…


Personal Development Means:

  • Doing things EVEN when afraid.
  • Doing it when you don’t feel like it.
  • Getting out of your comfortable box.
  • Being willing to be stretched out of your comfort zone.
  • Being persistent when all you want to do is quit.
  • Taking one more step into the darkness.
  • Having faith in things unseen. In your mentor.
  • Saying NO now because of the YES you want later.

Your Business is Like a GARDEN

To see results, you will have to:

  • Be persistent; consistent.
  • Work hard & smart.
  • Find the best mentors.
  • Be willing to learn.
  • Change. Change. And change!
  • Keep on keeping on!

Let me give you a visual:

  • Turn and return your fertile soil.
  • Plant your good seed.
  • Fertilize and water those seeds consistently.
  • Weed out the weeds. Keep the solid plants.
  • Solid roots are growing deep into the ground.
  • Let the solid plants grow, grow, grow.
  • Be patient, harvest is coming soon.
  • Be ready for when the harvest comes in.
  • Harvest!!! Woohoo! The fruit of all your labor is here… :)
  • Repeat the process. Over and over. As many times as YOU desire.

I must say that 90% of the work is PERSONAL Development. Your mindset, belief systems… YUP! There, I said it. Strength of Character. Integrity. Courage. Growth. That is how you become who YOU crave to be. Unless you rise up to the challenge and work, you’ll stay where you are.

If you’re always giving up, whatever you move on to next will always find you back at the start. Duh…! Over and over, NOT growing any solid roots.  

You’re Only Defeated If You Quit Remember the game, “Cliff Hangers” on the Price is Right?

I followed my mentors’ advice. I trusted the leaders and the process. I focused on getting there and not on what I did not yet see.  I chug-a-lugged along, doing what I knew to do. I focused on working smarter and not harder. I learned and studied. And studied and learned. I implemented. Again and again.

I got to the point where I could see the seeds I had painstakingly sown start to grow. Plants began to pop up here… then there. Over and everywhere. I began to get noticed. My presence grew and grew. The right people showed up to surround me and to mentor me. Blessings came my way that I could not understand. When I asked the famous question, “Why me?” I was told over and over by leaders “Because we saw your hard work, we knew you were serious and we wanted to invest in you.”

Then one day, the harvest was here!

This is honestly my story. Let me EXPLAIN.  

  1. Perseverance means sticking to it whether the feelings are there or not. Whether you feel like it today or NOT!
  2. It doesn’t matter if you are seeing results at the moment. Before you see results, you have to put in the time and the hard work.
  3. It doesn’t even matter if you are seeing the money!  :)

Find something you are passionate about, narrow down your WHY, make it important enough that you’ll learn how to succeed at it. STOP the madness. Ask yourself, HOW MANY TIMES WILL YOU QUIT? At the mercy of the next shiny object? It takes time to learn how to succeed.


Many Reference Proverbs 31 For Good ReasonIn Proverbs 31, we see an all-out illustration of the godly wife and mother. She’s this virtuous woman worth far more than rubies. Who can beat that? Her husband trusts in her completely, she does him good all the days of her life. She knits, sews their own clothing, makes tapestry, she is never idle and her hands are always moving. She rises early in the morning and goes to bed late at night. She clothes her children well and they are never cold. She works the fields with her hands growing crop, then brings her stuff to the market to sell, and feeds her household well. She is a strong honorable woman, very generous to the poor and needy. Her husband is a well-respected man where they live and when she opens her mouth, out pours wisdom. Her children look up to her and call her blessed. So does her husband. She is not caught up in outward beauty; her beauty comes from her fear of the Lord.WOW!!!! Quite a standard to live up to, right?Many other proverbs give insight into how a woman of God is to walk, what kind of womanly influence she is to have in her household.

Follow me as we take a look and glean a few takeaways! These are more pieces of advice that address our hearts, tongues, and priorities – some specifically aimed at wives and mothers.


  • Compared to Wisdom, the Lady Folly is rowdy, loud, naive and ignorant. Proverbs 9:13
  • A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one picks it to splinters with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1
  • The man who finds a wife finds something good, and the favor of the Eternal is indeed his. Proverbs 18:22
  • Much like a gold ring in the snout of a pig, so is a beautiful woman who lacks good judgmentProverbs 11:22
  • Houses and riches may be inherited from parents, but a sensible wife is a gift from the Eternal. Proverbs 19:14
  • You would be better off living in the middle of the desert than with an angry and argumentative wife. Proverbs 21:19
  • A dignified wife brings honor to her husband; a shameful wife is decay eating at his bones. Proverbs 12:4
  • It is better to dwell outside on the corner of your roof than to live inside your house with a badgering wife. Proverbs 21:9
  • The alluring words of a seductive woman are a deep hole; the Eternal is incensed toward those who fall in. Proverbs 22:14
  • Foolish children bring misery to their fathers, and a wife’s bickering is a like constant dripping from a leaky roof. Proverbs 19:13


  • When we speak brashly, folly is upon us seeking attention for ourselves.
  • Words of grace, discernment, and purity are pleasing in the sight of God and man.
  • Be fueled in God’s Word of hope! Stay away from worldly lust, keep your heart pure. 
  • Do you exercise wisdom or folly? Godly ladies build up others, lifting spirits that flourish. 
  • A woman’s behavior reveals her relationship with the Lord, and the value of her character


  • We have potential to be a direct blessing from Him, worth far more than any riches.
  • An upright wife brings glory and honor to her husband, she is excellence in her ways.
  • Her prudence—or thoughtfulness over others is a lovely fruit of her faith in the Lord.


Scripture’s Language Is Strong – Due to discontent, a nagging wife is a sorrowful thing in her household. Wow! Once she loses sight of Christ, the dangers of becoming quarrelsome and generating unnecessary friction increase dramatically.  The godly wife is to seek loving God and her husband wholeheartedly, for this leads to peace and prosperity.


  • 12. My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not your mother’s teaching. Proverbs 6:20
  • 13. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother. Proverbs 10:1
  • 14. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish man despises his mother. Proverbs 15:20
  • 15. The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. Proverbs 29:15


You may be thinking: these are about sons, not women! Yet the son reflects the mother, the one who teaches him.

These proverbs reinforce the powerful reality that our mothering has a long-term impact on the attitude of our children…and that we should be so deeply tied to the nurturing of our children that their disobedience or disrespect is heartbreaking.

The last proverb gives us a solution. It tells us moms that we have to be willing to love our children through discipline, correcting their wrongs with devoted discipleship, for it reaps godliness rather than shame.

While touching aspects of womanhood a little differently than Proverbs 31, these proverbs provide wisdom that remind us to speak sweet words, serve our husbands joyfully, and impact our children for good.