What I Remember Daddy Teaching Me

What I Remember Daddy Teaching Me

My Dad & Me…

I was 14 years old when I lost my Dad. A long-haul truck driver, he was away a lot and I didn’t get to spend a lot of time with him. When Mom knew he was coming home, she would make sure all 9 kids were cleaned up in our finest clothes. She’d do our hair and we’d wait expectantly for him to arrive. It was quite the special event, Daddy was coming home!

I Remember Many Things But Most of All How Dad Loved Life.

He was a happy-go-lucky guy who loved to tease & laugh. Mom was the serious one, (of course! She had 9 kids to take care everyday… by herself.) 

She worked hard to keep everything running smoothly, clean, cook and take care of us. She was ALWAYS taking care of something or someone. I remember how Dad used to tease her till she’d lighten up and laugh too. He had that effect on people.

When Dad Got Home, He’d Always Be Tired

After 4-5 days on the road, he needed sleep and would go straight to bed. Mom tried to keep us kids quiet and calm – I’m sure it wasn’t always easy. But once Dad got up, he’d make use of the short time he had with us and made it fun. At times, he’d gather us all around him, play the guitar and sing songs for us. Sitting at his feet, I learned a few Acadian French songs that still bring fond memories to my heart.

He Often Got Into Mischief 

One day Mom had him go up to the attic to get something. In our house, the only way you could go up is through a hatch in the hallway ceiling. Mom dragged the sewing machine under the hatch, put a chair over it and up he went. Ha ha ha…

Now, Once You Were Up There, You Had To Be Very Careful!

There was no floor to walk on, you had to position yourself to walk on the crossbeams of the house. Between those beams was the drywall of the room beneath it. Well… that day we kids were playing on the floor in the living room, gathered around the wood stove to stay warm. All of a sudden, we hear a big CRACK over our heads! Looking up, we see Dad’s body hanging from the ceiling… ha ha ha. We could only see his legs which were moving in all directions AND he was hanging over the wooden stove. Ha! What a clown. We had so much fun laughing and watching him come down.

What I Remember Daddy Teaching Me Those are the kinds of memories I have of him, forever etched in my heart.

Early one spring morning, he was coming home to his family and fell asleep at the wheel.

He’d been tired, sleepy and pushing it because he was almost there; he thought he would make it. About 3 miles away, he drove into a ditch, the cargo he was carrying slamming into the back of his cab, instantly killing him. Had he not had that cargo, he probably would not have been hurt because his speed had decreased a lot by the time he hit the ditch.

It was the day that changed the rest of our family’s life.

My Mom was 35 years old at the time, left to take care of 9 children ranging from 2 to 15 years old.

It was not easy for her to move on. I’ll tell you about that in another post.

What I Remember Most Is The Life Lessons:

  • Never judge. You don’t know what another person is going through.  When tempted to judge anyways, imagine putting your feet in that person’s shoes, walking a mile where they’ve walked.  Then, and only then… can you even attempt to have an opinion of that person. 
  • Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  The golden rule. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Never do to others what you wouldn’t want them to do to you. 
  • Treat everyone equally. Have no favorites. Don’t put people on pedestals they can’t honor and don’t estimate yourself higher than others. It doesn’t matter the status, where they seem to be in life; respect people for who they are. Everyone equally. Talk to people, treat them with utmost respect. 
  • Be yourself. No showing off. People don’t like stand-offish people or showoffs. Don’t esteem yourself higher than others. No airs, no pretension. Be real. Doesn’t matter if they’re the president, a handicap, a doctor or a farmer. Respect everyone.

I Have Missed My Dad’s Presence Throughout My Life

There have been specific moments where I so wished that he could be with me.  When I got married.  His first grandchild.  The Christmases.  The family gatherings… We have missed a lot of special times with him.

I Long For The Day Of The Grand Reunion 

The marriage supper of the lamb where we’ll meet, eat, talk and celebrate together. Oh! What a glorious day that will be. Jesus, standing by watching with a HUGE grin on his face. 

I Can’t Wait to Have Him Give Me A Great Big Hug… 

Till Then, Love You Dad ♥ ♥

Many Reference Proverbs 31 For Good ReasonIn Proverbs 31, we see an all-out illustration of the godly wife and mother. She’s this virtuous woman worth far more than rubies. Who can beat that? Her husband trusts in her completely, she does him good all the days of her life. She knits, sews their own clothing, makes tapestry, she is never idle and her hands are always moving. She rises early in the morning and goes to bed late at night. She clothes her children well and they are never cold. She works the fields with her hands growing crop, then brings her stuff to the market to sell, and feeds her household well. She is a strong honorable woman, very generous to the poor and needy. Her husband is a well-respected man where they live and when she opens her mouth, out pours wisdom. Her children look up to her and call her blessed. So does her husband. She is not caught up in outward beauty; her beauty comes from her fear of the Lord.WOW!!!! Quite a standard to live up to, right?Many other proverbs give insight into how a woman of God is to walk, what kind of womanly influence she is to have in her household.

Follow me as we take a look and glean a few takeaways! These are more pieces of advice that address our hearts, tongues, and priorities – some specifically aimed at wives and mothers.

WOMANHOOD SPEAKS LOUDLY

  • Compared to Wisdom, the Lady Folly is rowdy, loud, naive and ignorant. Proverbs 9:13
  • A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one picks it to splinters with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1
  • The man who finds a wife finds something good, and the favor of the Eternal is indeed his. Proverbs 18:22
  • Much like a gold ring in the snout of a pig, so is a beautiful woman who lacks good judgment. Proverbs 11:22
  • Houses and riches may be inherited from parents, but a sensible wife is a gift from the Eternal. Proverbs 19:14
  • You would be better off living in the middle of the desert than with an angry and argumentative wife. Proverbs 21:19
  • A dignified wife brings honor to her husband; a shameful wife is decay eating at his bones. Proverbs 12:4
  • It is better to dwell outside on the corner of your roof than to live inside your house with a badgering wife. Proverbs 21:9
  • The alluring words of a seductive woman are a deep hole; the Eternal is incensed toward those who fall in. Proverbs 22:14
  • Foolish children bring misery to their fathers, and a wife’s bickering is a like constant dripping from a leaky roof. Proverbs 19:13

YOUR WORDS, DO THEY STRESS OR REFRESH?

  • When we speak brashly, folly is upon us seeking attention for ourselves.
  • Words of grace, discernment, and purity are pleasing in the sight of God and man.
  • Be fueled in God’s Word of hope! Stay away from worldly lust, keep your heart pure. 
  • Do you exercise wisdom or folly? Godly ladies build up others, lifting spirits that flourish. 
  • A woman’s behavior reveals her relationship with the Lord, and the value of her character

GOD SHARES ENCOURAGEMENT FOR WIVES OUT THERE

  • We have potential to be a direct blessing from Him, worth far more than any riches.
  • An upright wife brings glory and honor to her husband, she is excellence in her ways.
  • Her prudence—or thoughtfulness over others is a lovely fruit of her faith in the Lord.

A WIFE CAN MAKE OR BREAK HER HOUSEHOLD

Scripture’s Language Is Strong – Due to discontent, a nagging wife is a sorrowful thing in her household. Wow! Once she loses sight of Christ, the dangers of becoming quarrelsome and generating unnecessary friction increase dramatically.  The godly wife is to seek loving God and her husband wholeheartedly, for this leads to peace and prosperity.


MOTHERHOOD

  • 12. My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not your mother’s teaching. Proverbs 6:20
  • 13. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother. Proverbs 10:1
  • 14. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish man despises his mother. Proverbs 15:20
  • 15. The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. Proverbs 29:15

Takeaways:

You may be thinking: these are about sons, not women! Yet the son reflects the mother, the one who teaches him.

These proverbs reinforce the powerful reality that our mothering has a long-term impact on the attitude of our children…and that we should be so deeply tied to the nurturing of our children that their disobedience or disrespect is heartbreaking.

The last proverb gives us a solution. It tells us moms that we have to be willing to love our children through discipline, correcting their wrongs with devoted discipleship, for it reaps godliness rather than shame.

While touching aspects of womanhood a little differently than Proverbs 31, these proverbs provide wisdom that remind us to speak sweet words, serve our husbands joyfully, and impact our children for good.