JESUS GAVE HIS LIFE FOR HIS PEOPLE, FOR US.
In the same way, the call of a husband is to lead by giving. He shows us Jesus by loving his bride with affection, allegiance, and action.
The primary difference between a good and bad marriage, is simply the difference of whether you’re motivated by selfishness or a servant attitude. We can’t give ourselves the things only our spouse can give; we can’t meet our own needs. Both partners bring special gifts and capabilities that nourish and bless each other. BUT, they’re only experienced if we focus on each other by serving and giving.
When we’re too selfish to focus and meet the other’s needs, both are miserable and resentment builds.
- Both need to repent and commit to the marriage for it to be blessed.
- All problems are not caused by one partner; it takes two to tango.
- Your marriage will be fulfilled to the measure you are willing to serve your spouse.
Many married couples are unable to resolve their conflicts because they don’t understand the difference between complaining and criticizing. This is a crucial point to understand when you’re trying to work through differences. We all need the freedom to complain and to be understood.
When we complain, it’s about us and how we feel.
- It’s important to begin without accusing or attacking; talk about how you feel and your desire to understand what happened.
- Reassure your partner that if you’ve done something wrong, you want to know and take responsibility for it.
- Do not demean or put your spouse on the defensive.
When we marry, we become one, but it doesn’t mean we’re always going to agree.
You will have disagreements solely based on differences that come with being male and female and different upbringings. You’ll not see eye to eye ALL the time, and it will be hard to swallow. How to handle it?