Foolish Words Will Keep You Stuck

Thoughts, Emotions, Beliefs

Proverbs 18:20–21:Death & life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.”
Foolish Words Will Keep You Stuck


Fear, anxiety, anger, disappointment, discouragement, grief, sadness, hope, excitement, pride, joy, desire, anticipation – powerful emotions like these push us down a certain train of thought, stirring up deep emotions that fuel our life.

Emotions Point to Underlying Beliefs, Shape Our Thoughts & Guide How We Live

“Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8

THINK About These Things. That’s a Strong Statement

Change How YOU Think. Why? Paul knew that giving IN to our negative, sinful thoughts is dishonorable: unjust, impure, ugly, disgraceful, and detestable beliefs must be confronted and replaced with the “whatever is” out of Philippians 4:8

When struggling with distracting, unbelievable  thoughts and emotions, God tells us that we are not victims to simply endure the miserable ride. Seize the controls he’s given us! Switch tracks, and move in a faithful, joyful direction. Wrong thoughts and emotions come from false promises and beliefs.

Paul’s Not Offering Counsel; He’s Commanding Us To Obey

It is for joy, freedom and love that God calls us to fight with all our might “upon these things.”

Once we uncover the false and trust the true, we can see the truth that sets us free to find peace and joy, even if nothing has changed around us. It’s the fight of faith we engage in daily! Difficult doesn’t mean impossible, for “with God all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26). Learning to overcome thoughts and emotions requires discipline – not in the denial of pleasure, but in the pursuit of pleasure (Hebrews 12:10–11).

Words can bring life, joy, encouragement, hope and healing when spoken in the right tone and at the right time. They can also bring down, humiliate and destroy if we don’t carefully monitor and control their use. At times, they captivate our attention for a moment, but leave no lasting impression or benefit to anyone. There’s simply no way to exaggerate the life-giving and life-taking power of words.

One example of the importance of words, speech, or casual comments are in the grand scheme of things in Matthew 12:33-37. 

Jesus Confronts Religious Leaders of His Day!

A Tree Is Known by Its Fruit

“Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or make the tree bad and its fruit bad, for the tree is known by its fruit. You brood of vipers! How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.The good person brings forth good out of his good treasure, and the evil person brings forth evil out of his evil treasure. I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word spoken, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” (Matthew 12:33-37).

Words, what we say and how we say it, is so perfectly a reflection of what’s in our hearts that, according to Jesus, there won’t even be a need to evaluate your words on the day of judgment.

Words can lead to our personal downfall and destruction. The fool is so rash and reckless with his words that he invites his own punishment and rebuke. Careless speech will almost always boomerang on the speaker and bring devastation. 

“The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouths of fools pour out folly” (Prov. 15:2)

Foolish Words Will Keep You Stuck So, before you open your mouth and release words, whether they’re true, accurate or necessary, pause for a moment and ask yourself: is what I’m about to say encouraging or tearing down? Does it promote goodness or justify sinful choices? Does it build trust or serve to alienate and divide? We read all over Proverbs about the virtues of calm, gentle, and pleasant speech.

You will make far more progress in persuading an opponent and experience far greater success in making your viewpoint known and accepted when you speak softly and gently. Harsh words rarely succeed in overcoming stubborn opposition. 

John Calvin once wrote, “When a man is running short on evidence, he raises his voice. Shouting is wrongly thought to compensate for lack of substance. But the person who is confident of the truth is calm and gentle.”

“The wise lay up knowledge, but the mouth of a fool brings ruin near” (Prov. 10:14).

Laying up knowledge means someone who restrains and makes no show of what he/she has learned. They speak with due intention instead of a tongue governed by pride! The fool, on the other hand, takes no thought of when or what he speaks. He blurts out statements that do more harm than good. 

“When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent” (Prov. 10:19).

“If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame” (Prov. 18:13).

When we speak is as important as what we say. The most priceless truths fall dead to the ground when spoken in haste or with a harsh tone.



“Let no corrupt talk come out of your mouth, but only what is good for building up, 

that it may give grace to those who hear” Abraham Lincoln

Many Reference Proverbs 31 For Good ReasonIn Proverbs 31, we see an all-out illustration of the godly wife and mother. She’s this virtuous woman worth far more than rubies. Who can beat that? Her husband trusts in her completely, she does him good all the days of her life. She knits, sews their own clothing, makes tapestry, she is never idle and her hands are always moving. She rises early in the morning and goes to bed late at night. She clothes her children well and they are never cold. She works the fields with her hands growing crop, then brings her stuff to the market to sell, and feeds her household well. She is a strong honorable woman, very generous to the poor and needy. Her husband is a well-respected man where they live and when she opens her mouth, out pours wisdom. Her children look up to her and call her blessed. So does her husband. She is not caught up in outward beauty; her beauty comes from her fear of the Lord.WOW!!!! Quite a standard to live up to, right?Many other proverbs give insight into how a woman of God is to walk, what kind of womanly influence she is to have in her household.

Follow me as we take a look and glean a few takeaways! These are more pieces of advice that address our hearts, tongues, and priorities – some specifically aimed at wives and mothers.


  • Compared to Wisdom, the Lady Folly is rowdy, loud, naive and ignorant. Proverbs 9:13
  • A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one picks it to splinters with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1
  • The man who finds a wife finds something good, and the favor of the Eternal is indeed his. Proverbs 18:22
  • Much like a gold ring in the snout of a pig, so is a beautiful woman who lacks good judgmentProverbs 11:22
  • Houses and riches may be inherited from parents, but a sensible wife is a gift from the Eternal. Proverbs 19:14
  • You would be better off living in the middle of the desert than with an angry and argumentative wife. Proverbs 21:19
  • A dignified wife brings honor to her husband; a shameful wife is decay eating at his bones. Proverbs 12:4
  • It is better to dwell outside on the corner of your roof than to live inside your house with a badgering wife. Proverbs 21:9
  • The alluring words of a seductive woman are a deep hole; the Eternal is incensed toward those who fall in. Proverbs 22:14
  • Foolish children bring misery to their fathers, and a wife’s bickering is a like constant dripping from a leaky roof. Proverbs 19:13


  • When we speak brashly, folly is upon us seeking attention for ourselves.
  • Words of grace, discernment, and purity are pleasing in the sight of God and man.
  • Be fueled in God’s Word of hope! Stay away from worldly lust, keep your heart pure. 
  • Do you exercise wisdom or folly? Godly ladies build up others, lifting spirits that flourish. 
  • A woman’s behavior reveals her relationship with the Lord, and the value of her character


  • We have potential to be a direct blessing from Him, worth far more than any riches.
  • An upright wife brings glory and honor to her husband, she is excellence in her ways.
  • Her prudence—or thoughtfulness over others is a lovely fruit of her faith in the Lord.


Scripture’s Language Is Strong – Due to discontent, a nagging wife is a sorrowful thing in her household. Wow! Once she loses sight of Christ, the dangers of becoming quarrelsome and generating unnecessary friction increase dramatically.  The godly wife is to seek loving God and her husband wholeheartedly, for this leads to peace and prosperity.


  • 12. My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not your mother’s teaching. Proverbs 6:20
  • 13. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother. Proverbs 10:1
  • 14. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish man despises his mother. Proverbs 15:20
  • 15. The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. Proverbs 29:15


You may be thinking: these are about sons, not women! Yet the son reflects the mother, the one who teaches him.

These proverbs reinforce the powerful reality that our mothering has a long-term impact on the attitude of our children…and that we should be so deeply tied to the nurturing of our children that their disobedience or disrespect is heartbreaking.

The last proverb gives us a solution. It tells us moms that we have to be willing to love our children through discipline, correcting their wrongs with devoted discipleship, for it reaps godliness rather than shame.

While touching aspects of womanhood a little differently than Proverbs 31, these proverbs provide wisdom that remind us to speak sweet words, serve our husbands joyfully, and impact our children for good.